I have been thinking about consequences lately.
The consequence of my son doing his Leaving Certificate is that he will be leaving home to go to college. Cue sad face.
The consequence of getting back into my running means I have to deal with my aching ankle.
My Grandmother always told me to “hold my whist to cool my porridge”. And sometimes it’s easy, especially in this “instant” world, to retaliate like a reflex if someone is being harsh with your soul. But the consequences to an outburst can be long and far reaching. I’d like to say with my advancing age (!) that I have learnt to be calm and serene in all situations. But, well, I’m still working on it.
One of my favourite quotes is-
“Wisdom is knowing the right path to take…integrity is taking it.” – M.H. McKee
And it’s a case of taking it on the chin. And reminding yourself that you may not know what is going on in someone else’s life that they have taken it out on you. And more importantly for your own well being, they cannot fully appreciate what is going on in your world. The whole- walk a mile in my shoes before you judge me.
Having both the ability to identify your personal values and the integrity to follow them in life are two qualities that make up a strong moral character. It requires wisdom to identify your own personal values, and even then, this perception is subjective; variable for each individual. And that is very important to understand. And hard to put into practice, unless in the cold, calm light of day.
There will always be those who will debate the contents of your values, but if you unfailingly do what you know to be right, no one will ever be able to question your integrity.